The Difference Between Being A Player And Being A Pickup Artist..

This is more of a rant I guess.

There was this guy at an event last month who wanted my buddy Legend to teach him how to close. For one, the guy wasn't even approaching and for two, he didn't want to have to talk to women for more than a few minutes, he just wanted to find a girl and fuck her within 5-10 minutes. Right off the bat I can tell this guy has a few problems, the biggest being that he has something against women. He wasn't interested in them as people at all. He was literally just looking for a way to use them for sex. Not that he shouldn't be able to make that choice in his life, but as we looked at him through PUA eyes, this guy is bad news. Pickup isn't what he's looking for.

* Disclaimer: Being a pickup artist isn't about using women for sex, though I'm sure there are some guys who do that, IMHO they are missing the point, but a PUA is, intrinsically, interested in women as a resource to enrich his life with and he finds the value in each woman around him. Before I start preaching let's get back to this guy..

If you're not interested in getting to know a woman ever, just go fuck prostitutes, why waste your time here when you aren't interested in women as people? Sure, you could probably get lucky once or twice and find a woman who isn't interested in getting to know you either (and you're not worth getting to know with that mindset anyway) who will use you like you want to use her. And maybe that's fine with you, but as a PUA, I'm not going to pass these skills on to you. Take off that business shirt, go find some homies in the 'hood, start drinking a 40 and have those guys teach you how to a player, which is exactly what you're looking to be.

Okay. Now that I've gotten the inspiration for this post off my chest, I want to talk about what sets players apart from pickup artists.

Women, by nature, are designed to ward off assholes like this guy, because the risks of being with him are way too high. If she gets pregnant by this guy, he's not going to be around and her instincts serve her well in smelling out this rat. Second on the risks list are STD's. A guy with a mindset like this is more likely to have contracted an STD that could her irreparable damage.

For those reasons, wanting to be a player isn't in a guys best interest.

A pickup artist, on the other hand, is the kind of guy who enjoys the

company of women. He enjoys what they bring into his life and finds

the value they each have inside. He has sex with her if they both feel

so inclined, not as way to take something from her, but to add

something to her. He wants to show her a good time, to unleash the

sexual adventure inside of her.

~Serendipitous